One Fact That Will Change The Way You Treat People

You probably already know this fact, but you never really incorporated it into your life. You know it, but you're not constantly aware of it. Not being aware of this fact is probably the biggest reason why we have aggressive conflicts and arguments in the first place. It could even be the reason people stay away from you.

At this point you might be wondering whether I'm speaking the truth or I'm just talking crap. Here's the fact that you want to know so badly : People are different.

Before you scoff at me, let it sink in for awhile. Were you aware of it the last time you were talking to a friend? It's hard to not shoot someone down when you're an extremely opinionated person, especially if what your friend is saying might not be aligned with your ideals. Of course, it's nice to share your opinions but there's a thin line between being helpful and being overly bossy. 

Next time you have the urge to express your opinion, remember that EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. Think it through in your head and phrase it politely to make sure you don't hurt anybody. 

5 Signs A Long Distance Relationship Won't Work For You



It's the stage of a relationship where you feel like your partner is the perfect match for you, you've been happily together for quite awhile now and everything you do together feels like the best moments of your life. Suddenly, a bomb drops and one of you have to leave the country to maybe pursue higher education. Everything seems to be going downhill, especially when everyone around you says long distance relationships are hard. What do you do?

Probably one of the biggest question marks in relationships is whether long distance relationships will work. And just like every other relationship question, it's extremely subjective. I've been in a long-distance relationship before and I didn't last long. From my experience, here are some signs that a long distance relationship might not work for you (note : this list is completely subjective and might not be the same for everyone. If you think it can still work out, go ahead and try. You don't lose anything from trying!)  :


1. One of you doubt that it will work.

I'm not just talking about partners who don't believe in long-distance relationships at all and insist on breaking up right away, even partners who are uncertain about it working and need some convincing before reluctantly continuing your relationship. Chances are, they would rather break off the relationship than continuing to live through more hardships with you when both of you are apart, and things will definitely get harder when both of you are far away from each other. If someone really loves you, he/she will definitely want to be with you no matter how difficult it gets and won't want to let you go. In that case, your relationship might work out. 


2. One of you will get angry at the other for not spending 'enough' time together.

Anger is an emotion that, if happens frequently, will kill a relationship. Angry people are normally irrational and it leads to more stupid decisions which end up in break-ups. In a long-distance relationship, the amount of time you can spend together will definitely be cut short, especially if the time zones are far apart from each other. It might seem hard at first, but adapting to it is possible. If you feel sad when you don't get to spend time together, don't worry, it's normal and it won't be the reason your relationship fails. Getting angry at your partner, however, will result in both of you getting angry and if one of you get tired of it, it's game over.


3. Only one of you is clingy. 

Even in normal relationships, a clingy person and a person who prefers to be a little unattached might not be the best match. This is further emphasized in a long-distance relationship where the clingy partner will get even more clingy when both of you don't get to spend much time together. If the other person gets annoyed by this, chances are your relationship won't last long. If both are clingy or both prefer being 'free', then you won't mind the other person being clingy or unattached at times. Hence, a long-distance relationship can't work if both of you feel very differently about the time you should spend together.


4. One of you get suspicious of your other half easily

If one of you get jealous too easily, always think that your partner is checking out other guys/girls or constantly get bugged by the paranoia that they're cheating on you, long-distance relationships are going to be hard. Trust is very important in any relationship and even more so in a long-distance relationship. Without trust, you'll probably get tired of not earning your partner's trust or feel insecure if you constantly worry that your partner will cheat on you. Eventually, things won't work out. A little jealousy is good to show your love, but not excessively till the whole relationship just crumbles into pieces.


5. You have no idea when you guys will be back together again

It's hard when you're far away from your partner, it's even harder when you don't know when you'll get to be with them again for good. Sure, you might see each other maybe twice a year but that's not enough to get a stable relationship that leads to marriage. People want to feel secure in relationships, and not getting something to hope for will greatly damage that security. Imagine when you're at your lowest points of your relationship and you know everything will be better when you guys get together physically, but you don't know when that will be, or even if that day will ever come. Without something to long for, chances are it's easier for any of you to give up on your relationship in search of something that's easier to reach



I know many long distance relationships don't work out and most people discourage against it strongly, but I strongly believe it's possible. As long as the mindset is right and emotional preparation is done, that relationship you have doesn't have to be sacrificed. If you're reading this, you're probably facing this dilemma and I don't believe you should give up until you try. Very few couples pull of long distance relationships but who knows? You might be one of those couples. What sets most champions and losers apart is the mindset you have before the game starts. If you don't believe in winning, you'll never win.

Do you have an experience that you want to share about long distance relationships? Have your own tips you want to share? Post them in the comments below!


What A Restaurant Taught Me About Branding and Creativity

Cafe-like chairs and tables

I was walking around in a mall recently, looking for a place to eat. In the end, I got fed up looking for something special and settled for a elegant looking one. The place was neat and the design was casual, which I guess attracted me.

Beautiful counter


Casual sofas

To be fair, I was being picky and I wanted to explore my options in the mall. The restaurant was attractive enough and it would be an excellent choice for someone wanting a meal in elegance.

Description aside, the one thing that really stuck to my memory was a little box on every dining table.

What's this? A simple box of creativity?

I got curious when I saw the labels 'recipes' and 'table topic'. I took out one card from each section and this is what I found :

Table Topic Card


Recipe Card

I've never seen this idea in any other restaurant I've eaten in so far and I'm impressed. I don't think I would have thought of this if I ever open my own eatery. The cards are really informative and helpful. You don't even have to worry about running out of topics to talk about!

Being the internet-needy individual I am, I asked for the WiFi password from a waiter and it was 'Think Big', which inspired me to do this post. The owner really knew how to think when he started this shop.

Here's some tips on how you can squeeze out unique and outstanding ideas next time you need them :


 1. Being different isn't limited to the product or idea you sell

It isn't easy to come up with new ideas in this blooming age of information. People have tried to be different in the past but even those ideas get common when it is copied countless number of times. However, just because the food you're selling can't be modified too much without being labelled 'quirky' doesn't mean your dream of opening a restaurant is gone. Instead, think out of the box and incorporate other things you like or things you do best into what you want to do. That way, it's easier to come up with fresher and more diverse innovations as everyone's train of thought is different. Just like this restaurant owner, who perhaps liked conversations and tried to make that a culture in his restaurant.


2. Many people can do what you do

That's an important fact that you have to remember. No matter what profession you are in, or want to be in, chances are there are already people within that same profession. Even for new professions, there will always be new people who follow your route and sooner or later they'll start flooding the field. With that in mind, it's always important that you learn to sell yourself. Ask some questions : What can I give that hasn't been done in the industry yet? Will other people think of what I thought of? Is my idea already in the market? Learning to set yourself apart from the competition is a great way to establish a brand that will stick. At the restaurant mentioned before, the food was nice but not something to shout about. However, within restaurants of that price range and environment it definitely stands out more than the rest.


3. People are willing to pay for more than just your product

When it comes to paying, some people are willing to give a little extra in exchange for additional benefits such as after-sales service, warranty and things like that. In concept restaurants just like this one, what's also important other than food is environment, service, Internet (I plead guilty!) etc. That's why people still go to fancy restaurants although the food is way more expensive than other normal restaurants. Keeping that in mind, going the extra mile to upgrade your services to try and lure in different categories of people definitely helps boost the image of your company. Although cost is higher and you might be tempted to raise prices (try not to), it'll definitely do you good in the long run.


4. Your philosophy should show in your marketing or product

Just like I said earlier, people also tend to buy things when their ideals are the same as the company's. Similarly, in any good speech, it's okay to flaunt a bit of your personality because it helps engage with the audience. People don't just want to buy a product from you, they want to understand why you're the right person to buy from and whether they can trust you in the future. It's very narrow to have a business plan of just selling products to customers and giving service if the need arises. Instead, focus on building a following too by engaging with your target group and making your philosophy known. For example, the WiFi password of that restaurant was 'Think Big' remember? Coupled with the boxes with table topics and the design of the restaurant, I feel much more connected to the way the owner thinks and because I like that idea, I feel like coming back. Making buyers come back is much more valuable than bringing in new ones that will never come again.


5. Cater and relate to what people want.

Okay, so we've got our own ideas and beliefs, and we want to shout it out for the world to know, but we also have to step back and make a compromise. There's a thin line between creative ideas and rejected ones, and it's not very wise to narrow down the potential customers you have because of your extremely specific desires. That's why when making a product, diversifying the range of that product might be a good idea. Not everyone will agree with your tastes so it's important to cater to them too, and choices are a good way to do so! The restaurant I went had 2 sections - one indoor and one outdoor. The outdoor one was designed like a mini garden which might appeal to some. These are the examples of choices you want to give customers to make them as comfortable as possible when doing business with you. When we relate and cater to potential customers, it's very likely that they'll try you out once and that's when your sticky factors come in to make sure they become a loyal customer



Have you visited any restaurant with something note-worthy? Or maybe you have a story to share about selling yourself (not literally duh)? Share it with me in the comments below!

4 Things I Learnt From Watering Plants



I used to hate doing chores because I was, frankly, lazy to do them at first. I didn't have to do chores when I was younger because I used to have a maid and I guess I got complacent. Even though my chores were very minimal (I only had to water the plants in the porch, take the clothing that were left to dry and wipe the table), I still got quite annoyed with them. After awhile though, it became a routine and I didn't feel annoyed anymore. In fact, watering plants became quite enjoyable and it made me realize some interesting things. Here are some of the things I learnt from watering plants every day :


1. The Joy Of 'Parenting'


After watering plants for a few months, there was this one day when I was thinking about how the plants looked like when I first started watering them. I have this plant that sort of dangles on the wall and it was quite small when my mum first bought it. Now, it's huge. We also have this tiny garden plant that we place on the table for decoration. The leaves it used to have could be counted with my fingers and toes! Not anymore though. This epiphany gave me a sense of achievement. I'm the reason all these plants grew so big (apart from my mum's great gardening skills)! It just feels wonderful. The change from a tiny little plant to a big strong one is amazing to see, but even more amazing to be a part of. I guess that's how parents feel too, seeing their kids, who used to crawl around the house, becoming adults fully capable of sustaining themselves. It makes me feel proud when I know I helped the little plant to grow into what it is now.


2. No 'Child' Isn't Loved


I admit that I prefer some of the plants in my family's garden over others. For the ones I fancied, I put more attention into the amount of water I poured and for the rest, I just gave them whatever I had left in the watering can. After some time, the leaves of the plants that I didn't pay much attention to started to turn yellow. My heart ached a little when I saw it. That's when I realized that I loved all the plants in the garden, regardless of my preference or their looks. All the plants were shaped by my hands, and I felt responsible for them. I couldn't just leave them to die (other than the fact that my mum will murder me if I do). All of them were like little children to me. Kids, don't ever think your parents don't love you as much as your siblings because they do, but they just express it in different ways because you're different.


3. Moderation Is Important 

Doing anything in moderation is important. As I said earlier, I gave more water to the plants I loved and less to the plants I think were a waste of space. Not only did the plants who didn't get as much water wilt, but even the plants I gave more water to had difficulties growing. It was drowning. Just like a child,getting too much or too little attention will cause negative implications. Even eating vegetables excessively can cause health problems! Therefore, it's important that we learn to strike a balance between 2 extremes and determine what's the best 'amount' that we should give or take in. 


4. Routine Gives A Peace Of Mind

People complain about timetables and routines and repetitions that get boring. I say it only gets boring because you choose to make it boring. I water the plants every day and there's always something new to see. Just because the activities are the same, it doesn't mean that the environment and the mood has to be. Occasionally, butterflies fly around the garden and birds fly past too. However, what gives me the peace of mind is knowing that I have the ability to continue my routine day after day. It makes me feel comfortable and secure because I'm not pressed by other urgent matters to the point where my routine is ruined. When there's a guide in front of you to follow, it feels peaceful to just be free from decisions for awhile without worrying about consequences.


Watering plants doesn't have to be a boring task. It can be pretty interesting when you open up your mind to it. Hopefully this articles reminds you that you can learn lots of lessons even from doing chores.

Have an experience to share about gardening? Or did you learn something from gardening too? Tell us about it in the comments below!