Probably one of the biggest question marks in relationships is whether long distance relationships will work. And just like every other relationship question, it's extremely subjective. I've been in a long-distance relationship before and I didn't last long. From my experience, here are some signs that a long distance relationship might not work for you (note : this list is completely subjective and might not be the same for everyone. If you think it can still work out, go ahead and try. You don't lose anything from trying!) :
1. One of you doubt that it will work.
I'm not just talking about partners who don't believe in long-distance relationships at all and insist on breaking up right away, even partners who are uncertain about it working and need some convincing before reluctantly continuing your relationship. Chances are, they would rather break off the relationship than continuing to live through more hardships with you when both of you are apart, and things will definitely get harder when both of you are far away from each other. If someone really loves you, he/she will definitely want to be with you no matter how difficult it gets and won't want to let you go. In that case, your relationship might work out.
2. One of you will get angry at the other for not spending 'enough' time together.
Anger is an emotion that, if happens frequently, will kill a relationship. Angry people are normally irrational and it leads to more stupid decisions which end up in break-ups. In a long-distance relationship, the amount of time you can spend together will definitely be cut short, especially if the time zones are far apart from each other. It might seem hard at first, but adapting to it is possible. If you feel sad when you don't get to spend time together, don't worry, it's normal and it won't be the reason your relationship fails. Getting angry at your partner, however, will result in both of you getting angry and if one of you get tired of it, it's game over.
3. Only one of you is clingy.
Even in normal relationships, a clingy person and a person who prefers to be a little unattached might not be the best match. This is further emphasized in a long-distance relationship where the clingy partner will get even more clingy when both of you don't get to spend much time together. If the other person gets annoyed by this, chances are your relationship won't last long. If both are clingy or both prefer being 'free', then you won't mind the other person being clingy or unattached at times. Hence, a long-distance relationship can't work if both of you feel very differently about the time you should spend together.
4. One of you get suspicious of your other half easily
If one of you get jealous too easily, always think that your partner is checking out other guys/girls or constantly get bugged by the paranoia that they're cheating on you, long-distance relationships are going to be hard. Trust is very important in any relationship and even more so in a long-distance relationship. Without trust, you'll probably get tired of not earning your partner's trust or feel insecure if you constantly worry that your partner will cheat on you. Eventually, things won't work out. A little jealousy is good to show your love, but not excessively till the whole relationship just crumbles into pieces.
5. You have no idea when you guys will be back together again
It's hard when you're far away from your partner, it's even harder when you don't know when you'll get to be with them again for good. Sure, you might see each other maybe twice a year but that's not enough to get a stable relationship that leads to marriage. People want to feel secure in relationships, and not getting something to hope for will greatly damage that security. Imagine when you're at your lowest points of your relationship and you know everything will be better when you guys get together physically, but you don't know when that will be, or even if that day will ever come. Without something to long for, chances are it's easier for any of you to give up on your relationship in search of something that's easier to reach
I know many long distance relationships don't work out and most people discourage against it strongly, but I strongly believe it's possible. As long as the mindset is right and emotional preparation is done, that relationship you have doesn't have to be sacrificed. If you're reading this, you're probably facing this dilemma and I don't believe you should give up until you try. Very few couples pull of long distance relationships but who knows? You might be one of those couples. What sets most champions and losers apart is the mindset you have before the game starts. If you don't believe in winning, you'll never win.
Do you have an experience that you want to share about long distance relationships? Have your own tips you want to share? Post them in the comments below!
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